Stay At Home Moms

Thursday, May 29, 2014
Okay, time to rant. I really try my hardest to be free of judgement because I know I don't like when other's judge me. However, I absolutely, positively, borderline loathe the negative stigma that is associated with stay-at-home-moms. Ironically, I used to be one of those people. I used to think that life had an order that we needed to follow in order to be successful. You know... school, work, marriage, and then babies? WRONG. As embarrassing and naive as that statement is, I'm glad I can look back and see the growth I've achieved. there is nothing shameful about staying home with your babies. In fact, it's commendable. I have never had a job that challenged me, enriched me, and left me completely exhausted... that is until I became Ava bug's mother. Staying at home means more than cleaning, cooking, and changing dirty diapers. Especially when you have a million other things going on in your life. For example, I still like to be socially involved, and I want to obtain my degree. This is why I'm enrolled in college courses. I also like being a strong advocate in my community for attachment parenting. The kicker to all of this? I do it all without a break (with the exception of Ava's brief naps). Staying home is what works for my family and I don't feel an ounce of regret for choosing motherhood over career first.

If I weren't staying home, I'd be working to pay for daycare, and I'd be missing out on watching my bug grow up. Those milestones with her, mean the world to me. It would literally eat at my heart to not be there. Don't get me wrong, I know we also live in a world where two incomes are a must for a lot of families. Some people don't have a choice, and I totally respect that. Justin and I made a very big decision that he would be our bread winner now, and I'd join him as soon as my schooling was done, and as soon as our children were in grade school.  I don't expect everyone to understand why we are making these types of sacrifices, but I wish that people were less judgy about it and more accepting.

I'm still a bright woman. I still have big dreams, and I plan on accomplishing those dreams. Staying at home doesn't make me lazy or bored. How on earth could I be bored with Ava in my life? I'm not involved in "mom" groups to fill my day, and I'm not having serious baby fever just because I want to stay at home forever. We all have different reasons for the choices we make. Those reasons don't have to be justified or explained to anyone.

If this was a bit jumbled, I apologize. My toddler is currently throwing blueberries at the dog, which means duty calls. I know this post doesn't apply to everyone, but the next time you talk to a mom about her reasons to stay home, don't assume. Just ask.

Happy Thursday all!

♥- Leilani

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