Perfect Marriage

Thursday, April 9, 2015
Because I tell you guys pretty much everything, I decided to talk about something that happened to me yesterday. I'm not going to go too much into detail, but I do want to talk about the reason this blog is even happening. Basically, that fight Justin and I had back in July ( this is the link for that) was brought to my attention as a way of explaining that my marriage was indeed "not perfect" and while that disagreement we had was a perfect example of the bumps that relationships go through, it still felt like nothing short of a punch in the gut when brought up by someone other than my husband. I've never been someone to exclaim that I have a "perfect marriage" or perfect anything. I mean, if you've been a long time reader I think it's pretty evident that I am flawed. My initial reaction to hearing this was just kind of like i said, "a punch in the gut" and then my next reaction was a little irritated. It's not anyone's fault but ours that someone outside of our marriage knows about this...I mean I did blog about it for crying out loud. But still, hearing it.. it just reminded me that the sanctity of my marriage is between two people... Justin and I. Even though I was pretty upset about the situation (rehashing old wounds), I still didn't speak badly about my husband. I didn't allow it to impact us today, because it's been almost a year since the infamous "motorcycle fight" actually occurred. I spent the better part of my afternoon talking with Justin about this, and the feelings he shared with me were everything I needed to hear.

The first thing he did was remind me of the growth we've had since that blow up. More than ever now, we know that we are CHOOSING to continue building a life with one another because we know that this is it. He also made it a point to remind me to not dwell on this recent situation. If people fall witness to our trials, that is only a reminder that we are flawed, we are human, and we have our disagreements. Once he said that, my entire idea about this ordeal changed. Our goal is to never seek perfection in our marriage, our goal is to seek what makes us truly "work" with one another. Every single day. That's why I don't bad mouth my husband. Some of you may follow me on other social media sites and you may see the cheesy, lovey dovey posts I share, but that is simply because I love the man I married. I don't have anything negative to say about the man I married to anyone, OTHER than the man I married. I made it a point at the beginning of my marriage to only exude love, happiness, and positivity when it comes to the relationship I have with Justin. That doesn't make us perfect, that makes us respectful.

So, this is kind of jumbled and I left a lot of the situation out of this blog post, but if you read this and you take anything away from this, I hope this is the thing you take: We are all humans that want to be loved, and we want to love in return. If you find someone that loves you, respects you, and makes you feel good about yourself, don't be afraid to pursue them. If you pursue them and you find yourself in a union with that person, treat them GREAT for always. Don't let outsiders influence your decisions or the opinions you have. Never feel cheesy, never feel judged, and never feel bad for sharing the love you have with the outside world. Trust me, it is nothing short of inspiring and beautiful, and let's face it, we all need a bit of that in our lives. Don't strive for perfection, strive for what works for the both of you. Most importantly, when you start expanding that beautiful union.. don't forget about each other. Remembering the reasons why this entire life started is the key.

P.S. Justin if you are reading this, please know without a doubt you are the very best friend I have in the world. You are my safe place, you have my heart. It sounds kind of cheesy to say it now, but from the moment you wrapped that jacket around me, I knew that you'd make a big impact in my life. I never imagined we'd be where we are today, loving each other just as hard as the first day we said it. Thank you for being true, faithful, loving, funny, caring, and a swift kick in the butt when I need it. I love you forever, best friends for always.

Happy Thursday all

♥- Leilani

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