Take Care of Mama

Monday, August 25, 2014
Oh my goodness you guys, it has been a long weekend. I learned a few things, got a spider bite, and I spent the last twenty-four hours on bed rest. Let's rewind back to Saturday. My step dad had a huge birthday bash, so we decided to head on over and join the celebration. We got there around five and I initially planned on only staying an hour (for the sake of getting Ava home in "time" for bed). Well, that didn't happen. We actually stayed over four hours. We played everything by ear though. There were seriously one hundred people there. Ava bug was a little sketch about her surroundings at first, but after awhile she warmed up. She got comfortable enough to leave mom and dad's side (never happens), and she even let a random stranger hold her.

She ate big girl food, she danced ALL NIGHT, and she was full of smiles. Justin was able to enjoy himself as well. He had a great time socializing with people that have known me since I was a little girl. I even allowed myself to loosen up a bit. It's not easy being able to be laid back (at least for me), but I'm glad I did. Ready for the lesson I learned? It was about half an hour before we left, I really had to use the bathroom, so I tried to give Ava bug to my dad... she was not having it. She started crying and I knew she was tired. I took Ava back from my dad only to have some RANDOM woman (her name is Wendy, she is sweet), take my daughter from my arms and tell me to go away.

My initial reaction was to freak out. Especially since Ava was crying. My dad was there, and he kind of gave me that look that said everything was fine. I remember telling myself if Ava kept crying just one more second, I was going to take my baby back. All of a sudden, Ava stopped. Wendy took Ava on the dance floor, and the two were dancing together. I couldn't believe it. As I followed them on the deck, Wendy said something to me that I will never forget. She said, "You are a good mom. Good moms need to take care of themselves too. Go have fun." The whole situation was strange because I had never met this woman before. She told me exactly what I needed to hear in order for me to let go, and really have a good time.

I ended up dancing the last thirty minutes away with my husband (with Ava in sight), laughing, and really just enjoying myself. It was a perfect Saturday evening, and also Ava's first late night out. Ava bug is clearly a party animal and she did so well with going to bed later than usual. I wish I could say Sunday was equally as perfect, but it was not.

Sunday morning I noticed there was a welt like bump on my back.. I asked Justin to take a look and he immediately said it was a spider bite. Me, being the dramatic woman I am, instantly started to freak out. I legit though I was a goner. I eventually started to get the chills and that's when I knew it was time for an E.R. visit. After two calls to the consulting nurse, six hours, and a prescription later, I was finally back home. Apparently I'm having an allergic reaction the bite, and I just have to ride it out until it's over. If "taking care of mama" wasn't true on Saturday, it was definitely true on Sunday.

Justin pretty much took care of Ava bug and I the entire day. I'm still not feeling tip top today, but definitely better than yesterday. I guess the point of this post was to remind myself (and other mamas) that we need to care for ourselves too. Sure there's always a load of laundry to be done, kiddos to tend to, and dishes that probably need to be washed... but those things can wait. Make a date with yourself and don't forget it's okay to not have baby around you 24/7.

Check out a video of my child and her daddy dancing to happy. She really is the light of my world.

Happy Monday all!

♥- Leilani

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