Gender doesn't matter

Wednesday, August 5, 2015
Okay, time to rant. I have noticed during my pregnancy with our miracle bean just how many people have an opinion about the sex of our baby, and I've seen others experience the same thing. I really wanted to answer a few questions, and share some of my personal thoughts. So to clear up some of the "concerns" of others, here you go:

You already have a girl, so I bet you really want a boy huh?

A: The short answer is, no. The long answer is, no. We want healthy babies. If that means we are blessed with five healthy girls, then we would be happy and elated just the same.

If you have a boy this time, that means you guys can stop, right?

A: No. Justin and I want a big family, and even if we have a baby from each gender, that doesn't mean we just automatically shut the door on continuing to expand our little family.

If you end up with another girl isn't your husband going to go crazy with so many girls?

A: Never. Justin loves being a daddy, and his love and sanity is not limited by the sex of our children.

I'm not sure when it became okay to make people feel better or worse about creating life.. but it's got to stop. If someone decides to share the most precious news in the world with you, be happy and honored they shared it with you. Little boys and little girls are perfect and wanted in every way in our home. Would I love to be a mother to a little boy? Of course! Would I love to have two princesses to care for? Absolutely! I will never be disappointed with any baby we are blessed with. It's hurtful when people say, "maybe next time" or "you guys can be done now" to the parents-to-be. We have yet to experience it, but I am noticing it on social media, and hearing it being said so much more.

On that note, thank you. Thank you to the handful of people we shared our news with that reacted the way people should, excited and elated! Including our family, friends, and all my readers in this pregnancy has been such an amazing experience for our little family. Before we publicly announce what our little bean will be, I just wanted to give everyone a heads up about how I feel about gender comments.

Happy Wednesday all!

♥- Leilani


  1. I love this. Every child is a blessing no matter the gender, and they will be loved no matter what!